Yes, I’m Getting a Divorce

This is the hardest post I’ve ever had to write. And I honestly didn’t want to write it. But cats out of the bag and several of you are too cognizant (missing wedding ring) or even went all the way into looking for my divorce filing. To the latter group- get a life. To everyone else, thank you for the concern and the sweet messages.

I’m not allowed to say much, but what I can say is yes, I’m getting a divorce. No, I never in a million years thought I would be writing that. This has been a pretty shocking situation. Please don’t ask me any other questions as I honestly can’t answer them. Please also keep in mind I have two beautiful angel babies that I’m trying to protect from this. So although it may seem fun to gossip about, please remember this is a family breaking apart.

Breaking apart. I just can’t stop thinking that. I know this can eventually turn into a different type of family dynamic. I get that. Right now it just feels like everyone and everything is breaking. apart.

I’m doing my best to stay calm and positive. I really am. And you all know I try to be as honest with you as possible so I’m just going to come straight out and let you know that I am struggling. So to all of those that have been with us for this long journey of Happily Hughes: please give me grace. Hudson has his heart surgery next Tuesday so I’ll be taking two weeks off to take care of him and to find my center again.

If you’re the praying type, or the positive energy type, or whatever religion you choose- we could use any and all of it.


61 thoughts on “Yes, I’m Getting a Divorce

      1. Amy Forsyth

        My heart just sank. I too went through what I thought would never happen in a million lifetimes. My sincere prayers are with you and your precious family. May God bless you tremendously through this process. Big prayers for Hudson. Love you and know you are one tough women that will prevail!!! 🙏🏻❤️😘

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    1. Julia

      Prayers for you and the sweet babies. Divorce is not easy but you, my lovely, are surrounded with a tribe of positive gracious people who will lift you, hug you & get you through this. We all love you so!

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  1. Stephanie

    Praying for everyone involved. It’s never easy and I’m sure there’s so much behind it. You owe it to no one to explain yourself. Just know you are being lifted up to the one who knows all, hears all, sees all and loves beyond what we can imagine. Love and grace ❤️

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  2. Becky

    You’ve been in my thoughts since the day you posted that you needed support but couldn’t say why. I would never pry and didn’t ask. I am very sorry to hear and I know I don’t know you personally, but I get the impression that you are a strong girl and have faith that you will make it through. Your family will remain in my thoughts.

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  3. Tiffany

    I’ll be thinking positive thoughts for you and your family. You’re strong. You will come out on the other side of this stronger than you could imagine. Hug your babies tight and find joy in them. You will need each other more than ever.

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  4. Vanessa quintero

    Some people are cruel for even looking into something like that. I pray for you and your family 💙

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  5. Sophie

    Awh Jess, I’m so sorry. Sometimes things just don’t work out despite your best efforts. You are an amazing woman and a strong one too. Take this time to reflect and think about you. You have a community of people behind you who are all wishing you the best. It might not feel like it now, but things will get better. I was married for 5 years, we have now been separated for 2. In that time I have found myself and am there for our 2 perfect children. I’m in a place that’s made me think about all the times I’ve looked after everyone else and now is the time for me. Look after yourself and things will begin to fall into place. Thinking of you sweetheart. You’re a hero. Xx

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  6. Martha Wrona

    Many hugs….so hard to realize that there will be a new start…continue to reach out as you walk this new road…always here….

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  7. Georgia

    I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I always looked up to you and your husband and the beautiful family you created. My parents went through a shocking out of the blue divorce 3 weeks after my wedding—it’s a very tough road to go down—for all involved. But you are so strong and I know will make it to the other side and your children will continue to thrive. I also applaud you for keeping the details private for the sake of your children. Stay strong and know that you have so many people rooting for you. All the love and prayers for you in these next couple of weeks, months and years ❤️

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  8. Jami Ray

    Lots of love and prayers for your family. You are a strong mama and I know you are doing your best for you and your sweet babies. Keep your chin up and know that you will emerge from this even stronger, having made it through the deep. 💗

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  9. Heather Frazzetto

    You sweet sweet lady. I’m so very sorry. I’m sorry for those that fished and made you write this. I’m sorry for the circumstances, you, and the angel babies. A lot of us have been there. You have a tribe out there that admire you and love you even though they’ve. Never met you! We will be there to lift you up and love you when you’re having hard times. We’ve got you!

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  10. jeanie lipscombe

    Lots and lots of hugs. I can’t imagine what you must be feeling. I also hope the surgery goes well for Hudson. xoxo

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  11. Holly Hughes

    We have three things in common:last name, divorce, and a child(children) . Plus my son had heart surgery at age 5. Everything may seem so overwhelming but you will get through it. One day at a time. I am a Christian so my faith and my family gave me strength. Give yourself time to grieve. Divorce is a death of a marriage. Support groups are helpful. It was a few years after that I went to Divorce Care. I tried to be so strong for so long that I finally needed to talk to others experiencing the same thing . Oh! My divorce was 22 years ago and my son did fine post divorce . His dad hasn’t been around much in his life . Feel free to talk to me if you need someone. Prayers for you ! 🙏🏻

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  12. Sheri Newell Anderson

    I’m so sorry to hear that this happened and will pray for you and your sweet family. My daughter went through this in the past and now is happily remarried. I hope that things work out for you the way you are hoping that heals your heart!

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  13. Michele

    You and your family are in my prayers. I too am going through a similar situation and sometimes we just need to know we aren’t alone. Hugs to you. Remember you are a very strong women and you will get through these difficult times even stronger.

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  14. M

    Head up beautiful lady. I feel your pain. Im going throuh it as well after 39 yrs. But you have a tremendous weight on you with little ones and so much more. You can do this and you will fo it.
    Lately i have been thinking about myself as a Phoenix rising, out of great sorrow and ashes.

    “ from ashes she rose
    And fluttered toward the sun
    swift as light she soared

    strength renewed by flames
    She spreads her wide fiery wings..
    ……..a phoenix rises”
    Pink Lady 2010

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  15. Elizabeth

    Prayers prayers prayers. A hard chapter in life that will bring growth, faith and love again. 🙏🏻

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  16. Amie Strieker

    You are in my prayers. I first will keep sweet Hudson in my prayers for his surgery and healing. Then for you, for serenity, courage and wisdom through this time of change. Prayers for the kiddos to have an understanding that is nothing but love. You are a strong woman, it takes a strong woman to say she struggles. Remember God is with you and you will never have to face anything on your own.

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  17. Sara

    Hang in there! God only gives us things we can handle. You strike me as not only someone physically strong but mentally. You will get through this and know you followers are sending you prayers and strength through this difficult time.

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  18. Shari

    Just taking it all one moment at a time is all anyone can do. I’m sorry you’re having to worry about this and everyone’s opinions and chatter with such a big scary surgery next week. Prayers to your family and a big ol’ mushy hug to you and the kiddos. Breathe in the love and push out the a worries in the next breath. Give your little ones kisses and take all the time you need to get back to center. It isn’t easily done and it’s so important. 💕

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  19. Stacy Chinn

    Jess,
    I’m so sorry. Praying for you and sending you stength. As someone who has been through it, please know you have people in your corner who can help (one of my greatest sources of strength came from a mutual friend of ours—Ashquack 😊). Hugs ❤️ Stacy

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  20. Amanda

    I’m at lake Lanier and I hope you can feel my hug from here. Life is full of wonderful, amazing, terrible and uncomfortable. Right now you may feel like your proverbial rug has been pulled from under your feet but it’s just Gods plan. There something with more purpose waiting on your discovery. Just hold fast to your values, let your eyes roll to the back of your head after a comment and (who in the flying monkeys butt looks up a court filing?!?) anyway, bless their hearts. You’ve got this. It may feel like Jesus is taking you off-roading at the moment, just stay the course. 💜

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  21. Jennie

    God bless you and your family. This is the time for you to snuggle those kiddos. Good luck with your son’s surgery. ❤️❤️❤️

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  22. Whitney

    You have an army behind you. I know it’s hard but you will shine. Praying for you and your babies 💓

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  23. Lauren

    Sending love and good vibes!!! I’m so sorry, girl… but you are AMAZING, always so inspiring, and life will continue to be fabulous for you, I have no doubt! Keep your chin up, babe.

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  24. Tina Devore

    I’m so so sorry. Divorce is never an easy thing to go through, no matter who’s “at fault” or who may have wanted it. It just sucks all around. Keep your head held high through this girl, you got 2 babies that are gonna need mama more than ever. Lots of love and hugs coming from this Kentuckiana girl😘❤️🥰

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  25. Kerry

    My heart just sank… lots of love and prayers during this heartbreaking time… if you ever need to know what NOT to do during a divorce… hit me up… I managed to unfortunately do them all… hang in there… you have a beautiful soul … it’s hard to hear or even believe right now… but you will survive and learn to live a new happy “normal”… Sending you and your family lots of ❤️

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  26. Jess Ackermann

    I have been a longtime reader and I am so sorry to hear this news. Yesterday I listened to Armchair exposed – Gweneth Paltrow podcast and she had some amazing things to say about her “conscious uncoupling”- highly recommend. Prayers for you and your family.

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  27. Shelli

    I don’t know you. I have just followed you via Instagram. I’m not into social media, I got it to shop for my daughter clothes that I can not get here locally. I just want to say how even the best photos of your family and life can have hidden behind them the truth of what’s really going on. I am sorry you have to go though this. I went through it, I still have so many feeling towards the divorce. My kids were 4 and 2. They don’t remember much of it as it’s been almost 3 years. My ex and I remained good friends and still are. I hope you and your ex can do the same. It’s hard. No one knows you exact situation or what you are feeling or going through. They say they do but they don’t. Each divorce is different, you are different. There are many of us women who support others like you and you need that. You need to feel strong from outside your body when the inside is weak. Keep doing what you’re doing and remain true to your happiness, no matter how it comes down that path now. 💪

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  28. Beth

    I’m so sorry to hear this news. We are in the last stage of this with my son and his wife and it’s been heartbreaking to say the least. I will pray that you will find your center again and you will, because you have such a sweet spirit! Prayers also for your precious Hudson and the medical staff as well as you and Henley as you care for him during recovery. Prayers for blessings, healing and peace through it all.

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  29. Eve Kim

    Weird – I was looking at your Instagram account and thought to myself — where is her husband? Is she a single Mom? I could only find one photo of your husband posted on your account, and then — I read this blog post. I’m sending you love and prayers during this very difficult time. I know that you will come out stronger, wiser and brighter in the end. I read an article many years ago about Vanessa Williams getting a divorce and re-marrying. She seemed happy in her second marriage — and in the second part/phase of her life. For some reason, seeing her happy made me believe that I could be happy again too after my divorce. (Not suggesting that you will or should get married again). But – def suggesting that the second part of your life can and will be wonderful — so look forward to that. Wishing you all the best!

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  30. Brandie Pack

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Lot of love and prayers for you and your precious babies❤️🙏🏼

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  31. Nicole

    As a woman who has gone through a divorce I know that whatever brought you here is you and your families struggle and journey. Whatever feelings you are having heartbreak ,joy ,a combination, or neither they are not wrong they are your emotions . They roller coaster ahead is not easy but I will come to an end . It does get easier . The kids adapt and thrive . A new journey and adventure will begin for you and them . I wish you and your children only the absolute best in the days ahead . You are inspiring . Stay strong Stay brave ❤️

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